Are you willing to listen to others and let others have their voice, even when it might be inconvenient, difficult, or painful to do so?
Yes, I feel like I am bale to listen to others, if those others are not my sister. I like to hear others ideas and opinions so I can form my own opinions, but when it comes to my sister I never listen. I enjoy having conversations with people to shape my ideas and hear alternate opinions, especially when it comes to sports or politics.
When you find yourself in disagreement with someone, do you focus on making your own views heard, or do you stay open to the other person's point of view?
I definitely try to get my view across very clearly and quickly, but I always wait and see what they have to say also. I feel like it is necessary to get your opinions heard in an argument, but it is also important to hear the other side, in case they bring something up that you never thought of. My personality inclines me to get my opinion across, but I am always working on letting the other person talk, and modifying my opinion.
In situations of conflict, do you try to win agreement, or do you seek first to establish trust?
I feel like I usually try to win agreement, because when I am in an argument I am confident and passionate about what I am arguing. The first thing I try to do is present good facts to get them to agree with me, so I can present more of my opinion and try to persuade them to be on my side.
Do you sometimes feel unheard?
Not usually. I am a very loud and opinionated person, so it is kind of hard for me to go unheard. Sometimes I say dumb things and hope I am not heard, but I usually am. Only when I am arguing with my parents do I sometimes feel unheard because they usually don't listen to me and have made up their mind before hand.
Do you take care to keep your relationships alive?
Yes, I always take time to keep my relationships alive. My parents have always stressed to me the importance of never burning bridges, and keeping good relationships with adults and people with influence over me. You never know when your old boss could be your new boss, or bosses can call each other for an opinion on you. For kids I try to be nice to everybody, but if I do not like someone they usually know.
Nice Job Jacob. I liked when you talked about relationships, I think you do a really well job of socializing with new people you may not be comfortable with. You also do a really well job of keeping relationships and even making new ones.
ReplyDeleteJacob, your blog was funny. I agree that it is impossible to even try to listen to my sisters. What I liked most about your blog is the never burning bridges part; I think you have a good outlook socially.
ReplyDeleteI will start with the end, bravo for understanding the parental advice about bridge burning...that is an important piece to remember. On to the next topic of not being heard by parents...I really feel that is a teen thing...remember that we, the parents, have "been there done that" and in some cases you need to listen to what we have decided...when you become a parent you will have the "A HA" moment aobut this. Final piece....why are you so hard on your sister...
ReplyDeleteI also try to win the argument like you Jake. I think that if I am going to have an argument I need to be sure of myself and passionate or else its not worth it.
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